Definitely feel "too old" to be in therapy . . . Often and with anger and regret!

Like you, I never dealt with my childhood trauma, kept it deep inside, close to my chest, and allowed it to fester and harden, until I felt as though I'd burst from the inside out. I realize now that if I'd been able to get the help I needed earlier in life, my adulthood might have been significantly different . . .I'm not talking about my professional/work life, as that has been positive and satisfying. But my personal/relationship life has been sadly lacking in the area of connection, loving and intimate relationships. If I could have a do over, things might be different.

Although I know that I will never be able to make significant and lasting personality changes (something that I personally feel is more possible if a person gets therapy early in life), I do accept that I can use therapy to get a better understanding of what trauma did to me and to develop better coping skills. Therapy can also help me have a place to vent when things seem to be coming apart at the seams and that venting time, allows me to be heard, to take a deep breath, to examine my options with a person I respect and then go back out into the world, happy that I didn't act impulsively and make a mess. I don't view therapy as a waste of time . . . not today anyway. Ask me again tomorrow and I might respond differently . . . that's my flawed and damaged way of looking at the world that isn't so good at changing due to my "old age" entrenched way of thinking LOL

**I did want to add that I know many other older people that aren't as set in their ways as I am. They seem to be able to turn their thinking on its ear and see things from a different angle with ease. I respect that and wish it was me, but it's not. I can only hope to make tiny changes and continue to accept and learn from my mistakes.