It could be that it was a very good visit where she felt a very strong connection and just felt driven to do that.

Yes, I got that feeling too, that it was from a good place.

But that can cause problems for some of us who've been abused. (not saying this is the case in biiv's situation) That's why I try to tell people (massage therapists, Dr.'s etc) that I have abuse issues. (that also took time for me to be able to do)

An unexpected touch (or kiss) would send me straight to the ceiling, PTSD.

I guess that's why it seemed inappropriate to me. That whole past blurring with the present thingy. Another good example of trying to practice self-care if you know what triggers your responses, and now that biiv knows she can decide how to handle it.