I do support her, I tried to make that clear in my original post. My main concern is she has already switched majors once and now is considering it again. I am very averse to waste and if she switches her major again it would be a waste of two big loans. There are a lot of people who float through school for years switching from major to major and never really end up settling on something and then end up forced to take a job just to start paying back loans. I don't want to see her forced into that position, she's a really smart girl but she's like me in that she's very indecisive. We don't have a big money person to fall back on and if we do marry her debt will become mine, so I do have a personal stake in her decision as it will effect my life as much as hers.
If I didn't care about her or wasn't considering a serious future with her I wouldn't care about what she did, but I do care and don't want her to fall into a position that disadvantages her, and in a greater view, us. She's gotten a lot of perks for being a female and a minority from a low income family in terms of scholarships, but the loans are different and I wonder if the lines between scholarship and loan have become a bit blurred.
We're planning on talking about this tonight, I'll take the words of wisdom from this thread into consideration as we talk about it. Thanks again.
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