Society is shallow?

Uhm, yeah. And that's an understatement!

If you're not what they want, then they see you as a reject and want nothing to do with you. Speaking from personal experience. I gave up on the whole relationship bit because yeah, people are shallow. And when I think about it, even when I am in a better place in life, why would I want these stupid people? If I am down on my luck again, they'd just leave me, on the same token that they reject me now. I say eff them all. Do what you want to do and don't worry about relationships. Find a steady person to hook up with every so often. Its nice because there's no expectations, no control element (that comes with every relationship whether or not anyone wants to admit to it!)