You realize you made the point that if you hadn't got your debt forgiven you would've likely killed yourself, right? That the only way you were able to get it paid off is by becoming disabled? I don't want her in the position where she's considering killing herself over debt she racked up in courses she didn't like, or have her hoping she can find a disability that will wipe out her debt. I care about her and I'm invested in her future and for you to say I'm controlling her pushed my buttons because it's nowhere near the truth.

I stood by her when she switched the first time, but I'm apprehensive about her doing it again FOR HER OWN WELL BEING. Not everything is about men controlling women, surprise surprise, sometimes we're just trying to look out for you and I'd expect her to do the same for me.

If you're going to grandstand and scold me for being "controlling" then I'm going to respond in kind. For the record no she's not a "raging nut", she's very sensitive and struggles with a host of psychological issues. I was indeed looking for ways to talk to her about it, and received some very good advice, but being accused of being a "controlling man" is a step too far. I love her and maybe I'm a bit overprotective because the world hasn't been kind to her and I want her to avoid future trauma and troubles.