I had a painful attachment for my first T, the therapy relationship also didn't feel right and I felt quite rejected and judged within it, but perhaps always hoped to be accepted and cared for. I have sometimes wondered if it was the unmet hopes that made me feel a painful love. I seem to feel a bit more like you with my new T who I've been seeing for about 9 months, my new T is very steady and accepting, she doesn't say anything that is rejecting to me. I too have been wondering why I don't feel such a deep love. I've been wondering if it is because it is a lot more secure a relationship? I've also been thinking that with time it may come. (I still do have insecure feelings come up, but I can see that these relate more to my childhood than to her).