This woman sounds like a Taker. Get far, far away.

Also, possibly an addict (drugs, alcohol, food, whatever). Addicts are masters of manipulation, and very good at getting others to feel sorry for them.

My husband was developed a friendship with a man from church who was like this. My husband felt sorry for him. The man was going through long term unemployment, his wife was leaving him, and he couldn't support his family anymore. I suspect my husband was giving him money. This man had all the earmarks of an Addict. I am not sure but suspect it was a prescription drug addiction of some sort.

My guess is that after you let go of her, she will just go out and find an Enabler, someone else to help her out. So I would not worry about her at all.