I do believe in soulmates, the Elizabeth Gilbert interpretation of them which is the best I've ever heard: “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”

I've definitely had one of those. As far as "the one" I don't really know if I believe we are fated to be with one particular person. I think there's many people that we are compatible with, and maybe if we all do what we need to do to be the best versions of ourselves maybe we get the best version of someone else? I defintely didn't believe someone like my boyfriend existed and he didn't think I existed so when we met it was pretty suprising for us both. We have both done SO MUCH work in therapy over the years, if one of us hadn't gotten healthy enough we for sure would not have ended up together. I can say he's the one for me and I plan to spend the rest of my life with him, I can't imagine a better fit and even if one were to come along I'd stick with the one I've got. I do call my dog "the love of my life" though and my boyfriend is cool with that. Lol.