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Old Dec 11, 2015, 03:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Pretender79 View Post
I have a friend who is very much into double standards. How do I get this person to understand they are behaving this way? Whenever I try to explain the situation, the person gets mad and turns it on me and won't accept any personal faults. All faults are mine. I in turn get defensive. How do I break this cycle? I don't want to lose this person as a friend.
If you've tried to explain it and they won't listen then there's nothing else you can do. If you want to maintain the friendship you just have to accept them as they are. People don't like their "flaws" being pointed out to them. If they ever come to you for advice, or ask why you think something happened then you might try pointing it out again but generally people don't want their shortcomings pointed out to them.
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