I think that women are in a very difficult position with the "touchy feely" thing & the most important thing we need to realize that it needs to be what we are comfortable with....it doesn't matter what anyone means by it....if we aren't comfortable with the situation, then we need to "STOP IT".

When I was in KY, my neighbor had a BBQ & we had dinner together. He kissed me telling me that all the horse people in KY are just that way. I don't care what everyone else does....I don't care is EVERYONE else does it. I am NOT everyone else. I don't have to feel pressured because everyone else does it, or that it is normal for certain situations.

If I don't feel comfortable with what is going on with me....that is the most important thing of all. Women can be pressured into situations by being told that everyone else is doing it, or that it is just what happens in certain situations. But why should we have to try to force ourselves to accept those things just because????

Sometimes something will happen, but when we look at it....if we aren't comfortable....no matter how we justify the situation.....we don't have to let it happen again.

Saying "NO" is the most important word we can learn to protect ourselves....& saying that we aren't comfortable with something should be justification enough to not let it continue beyond the first situation. We shouldn't feel like we have to get used to anything.....go with your feelings about a situation.....even if it is your past experiences or whatever. We shouldn't be rationalized into anything we don't feel comfortable with when it comes to close "touchy feely" situations with anyone.

This is just my opinion of course, but I have taken a very hard stand on this in my own life & will not get pressured, made to feel like I am the one who is different....I am just fine & so is everyone else who is willing to take control of their space.

Debbie