I feel that way many days also. Once in a while I figure getting in the shower, brushing my hair and teeth, dressing in decent clothes means I do care for myself in some respects so that's at least a start. Going to a therapist on a regular basis must mean one cares for themselves, right? I think reaching out on this forum shows you care for yourself. I guess if we all really look at the little things we do in life, we might see we care for ourselves more than we realize. How to dig in, access that care, and make it grow is beyond me though.