Hi Hathi

I am in the same boat as you. My divorce has just come through, we tried to reconcile for six years but the mistress got in the way, as well as we did, if I'm being honest. This past year I have been searching for a new type of relationship. I want to be intimate with someone, with out the myth that we are going to ride off in to the sunset and live happily ever after. I like sex too but I want it to be with affection and exploring who each other are. I met several guys too. They have become dear friends but we are not meant to be partners. I like having dear friends and I go to Cuddle Parties which is a group in which you cuddle people in a non sexual way. Then I met a guy who brought up tons of emotions good and dysfunctional. It has been good to work on myself, as is he. But it is so complicated. I am working on a picture of me with my career, friends, hobbies, children, and time for me and God, and if this guy fits in one day, good; if he doesn't, then I'll just go around asking people for hugs. Let's create a new myth for single people - kind of like at university where you play and have fun with fellow students, where you share your heart and dreams and laugh with each other, and the only qualification is that you are at the same university.