Yes.....he is abusive, it is just confusing......what makes someone behave like that? not only is it negative towards others but has negative repercussions for him. What causes it? I feel like I just escaped from a captive situation. I am sitting in my living room and the sense of freedom is almost overwhelming to me. I can move about freely without worrying if I am doing something wrong, without bringing him coffee all night and cooking for him.....I am free and it feels nice, NO....it feels AMAZING!!!!! Thank you all for taking your time to read my post. I am talking to the universe and it is nice to know someone is listening