I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting a relationship, although nowadays it seems to be rather old-fashioned with a lot of people. I think this might be because they are getting their physical needs met and also because they don't understand the value of having a loving, exclusive relationship.

If you want a loving, exclusive relationship, I say hold out for one; half-way relationships based on the physical or on some sort of "I use you, you allow me to use you" dynamic are not going to be fulfilling.

A couple of things: If you have a therapist, please discuss your use of the word "boy" for a grown 50 year old man. There is a clue there.

And:

you wrote: "No relationship is perfect, that is so true, but people can grow in a loving relationship and work on their issues as well"

While I agree with you, I find men tend to be impulsive when it comes to initiating 'relationships' -- first they want to be sexually excited; then the other ways a relationship excites or fulfills filter in. That is a generalization, of course: better said it would be first a man wants his primary need satisfied (which might not be sex--for example a man who likes to use women financially would tend to go after women with access to $$)--their thoughts of "growing in a loving relationship" are way after the fact--and may never get to that point.

What it boils down to is: decide what you want and then go after it. If I wanted a loving, stable relationship, I would look for grown men who demonstrate they are loving and stable in other ways: they have friends, they have steady employment; they have hobbies; they are kind to others even when it does not directly benefit them. Frankly, at your age I'd tend to go with men your own age, or slightly younger, not older unless the man is a widower. And I'd make sure I was as physically attractive as I want to be under everyday circumstances--no total unrealistic makeover if I didn't intend to sustain that look.