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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
You asked:
I am just curious why you suggest the narrow age range? I am 45, but I look much younger than my age. I am approached by all sorts of men of different ages. I do prefer men my age or a bit older. As a 45 year old, I don't find a 50 year old guy to be too old.
W is how you describe him, however, since he got divorced I don't think he is ready to be in a serious relationship. He was with the same woman for 25 years, he just wants to get laid. "
The answer is in your last sentence. Divorced men this man's age just want to get laid, and frequently by women younger to much younger than themselves. I've just found that men who are divorced later in their married lives are rather more damaged than I want to take on. A man who was happily married who loses his wife to death often wants to commit to a long term stable relationship because he enjoyed it the first time. A 40-something man, particularly one who has not already been married, might be just at the time in his life where he has experienced enough that he knows now he wants a long-term committed relationship.
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Ah, cool, thanks.
I do see what you mean and it is definitely something to consider. That definitely is true for many men. That being said, I do know some men in their 50s who are divorced and who have happily moved on and found other partners, so I think it is important to not discard every single person who fits that category either. I also find that many men, no matter their age, after a breakup, will want to have sex with many women, including young ones.
There also definitely are many widowers that make wonderful partners. I was involved in the past with a widower that I thought was a the love of my life, and he broke my heart like no one else ever has. I am actually weary of widowers (there is a whole set of complications and issues that can be associated with being with a widower...again, not all widowers, but many), but, I am definitely willing to give them a chance as I could lose a great opportunity and don't want to discard a whole group based on a generalization. However, with any man now (lessons learned through experience), I want to get to know them first and gauge whether or not they are ready for a relationship.
I think that now that I have calmed down from my initial reaction last week (when I wrote here originally I really was hurting quite a bit), I can see that things aren't so black and white, that there are many shades of grey. Perhaps W will be ready in a year and if I am still single and willing to go that route, who knows, we could form a relationship. In the meantime, no. I will live my life and see what happens but I am not going to put it on hold for him or anyone.