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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
You sound like you're young, 20's maybe. Overworked and underpaid. You're not alone and that makes forming relationships hard. I'd say take a deep breath and relax. You are not going to have a relationship like right now, like yesterday. Do you live in a city where you can take mass transit? Otherwise dating with no car is limiting. I suggest you find people you have common interests with, maybe volunteer, like Habitats for Humanity. Try to project a positive image and don't come across angry. There is someone out there for you.
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Yes, I know. I'm just saying everything even being around friends is near impossible. Yes, but it's limited to a certain state we live in a tristate. We have 2 mass transit metro bus systems, but unfortunately I would have to pay for a pass cheaply for one, but not the other, because I don't know why my city does mass transit stupidly they do a lot of stupid city projects don't ask me because I don't know why on that.
Anyways yes it's available and I have uber and I used taxi's before, and I'll be driving soon. I'll have my license in a few weeks and I'm saving for a car now. People with common interests is very hard and the reality, most people don't want other people around them. I'm one of them, now, because I have to just to actually have friends than not. It's hard to explain a younger generation of people like isolation and perceived friends over real ones. It's an obnoxious trend and needs to die. It's just younger people lack the common sense of how they treat their self and others and how it affects them instead they just shut everyone out and just say **** you to everyone.
I can't relate to people at my work, because I'm from the other side of a different near my work also, most people would flake on me now at a moment's notice even if we were tight for years. Relationships aren't a goal anymore, their just a commodity. I don't find it enjoyable that I can go out with someone who in my previous experiences expect too much and you want to be a healthy relationship and just act stupid if things don't go their way. It didn't happen a lot with some of my previous relationships, but omg it hurt my brain how stupid some people get when they are overly infatuated.
I do like the people I've previously dated even if they didn't like me much or they felt bad for hurting me and just left because they can, they didn't want to be the few girls who are **** ups. Sadly, I worked hard at being better.
It's paid off giving me wisdom, the downside I don't look forward to being in any relationship. So to clarify yes I want one, but a specific one, like someone I'm actually friends with not someone I just meet. Sadly this is all superficial people are and I usually ignore and shut people out, I have to be introverted to be included to give distance so people will ask me more to hang out and so I will accept and go.
Most people like me, but most people aren't friends of mine at all, I only have a few now, thankfully again when I had none recently.
I just hate doing everything alone.