My hubby is much more cleaver than this... Very careful not to verbally abuse me anymore (after cas and counseling) but shows no empathy either... If I speak up for myself and point out how horrible he is being with the kids or ignorant toward me he turns it around and suddenly I'm just being "manic" or needy and it's all about me... Ok so u sit in silence so as to not rock the boat but for how long? Once I start taking sedatives for the "mania" agsin I'll be a zombie and he'll be happy again...