Hi everyone : my name is Saleh, im new here and signed up seeking help.
I have a long story but I'll make is short as most as I can :
I met a girl 3 years ago or so, we became a friends for awhile then she told me she had to take a vacation of communicating with people and that is normal thing that she used to do every now and then to clear her mind, and me myself I was ok with that as life can be hard nowdays.
month later she came back to her normal life, and we got our friendship further, and in a matter of 2 and a half months I got in love with her, and told her about my fellings toward her, month later we were in a start of a relation ship, things seems to be ok and going forward but with time and sharing, as a partner I sensed that she have-hade depression in her life, specially that she was only one year out of her ex relationship
as we are from Syria :\ so I knew that this accident caused her to have depression and she even told me that after a while that she had dark days in that periods, .............
a month later she changed in about 3-4 days from someone who was saying im thinking about sticking to the rest of my life with you, to the no contact mod. and I tried soooooooooooo hard to get her back or even to understand what happened, but no avail, till I gave up, but she stayed in my heart, I moved on but we stayed on each others social communication softwares, and after few months we get back in small touch like hey, hey how are you and so on,,,,, it was always me who start the contact.
I thought that she is a good girl despite what she did, I knew it was depression and pushing away thing, now a 2 years later we get back in good way, but she still in depression and she opend to me and said that she has it and she push people away as she think I need to have a healthy person, and that caring can but stress on her, I don't mind spending my life in a hope she can get well and back to what she was before the death of her old lover.
I asked her did she took pills ? she told me for a while but she stopped than, and she don't need pills more like a fresh start, she is in India now waiting for a Visa from the German embassy, if that fail, I'm afraid that she can do something bad the her self, she don't tend to think in suicidal way, but I can spot that sometimes in her songs, and recently she deactivated her social media accounts from everywhere, except steam and watssup.
how can I be a good person to her, without being to stress to her, and is there any clear sign about suicide ?
I don't think she gonna do it for real, as it could have done it in the early days when she lost her lover and it was fresh cut.
but i'd like to know from you, and how can I stay beside her as best as possible ?
and can she get rid of depression with time if she don't treat it ?
thx a lot in advance.