Well the only thing I can say personally to you from my experiences of dealing with a whole bunch of people who are alcoholics and drug addicts including me is. You can give them all of the advice in the world, you can spend a whole bunch of money on rehabs hoping they help your family member out, but unless they want the help themselves its useless to help them. It takes self control and remember this. You can lead a horse to water but you cant make the horse drink it