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Originally Posted by continuosly blue
Hi Hannabeee , thank you for your kind words. I got the short end of the stick as far as everything is concerned.
1. I didn't want a long drawn out expensive divorce so I pretty much gave her everything just to get out.
2. She brainwashed my children , portraying me as the sole reason for all the conflict between me and her.
3. I was abandoned by them all. They treat me now like I never existed.
The part that I'm trying to get over in therapy is how I'm not getting any credit for anything good I did.
And also how they will never admit any wrong doing or say "I'm sorry for hurting you ".
They have no idea or concept of what real mental illness is and the struggle I've been through my whole life.
I don't want their sympathy , just an honest adult conversation.
BTW : If it takes me another 40 years to move forward then I will have to continue this conversation from the other side !   |
Give yourself some credit, even if they can't! They may not acknowledge that you did good things, but you know you did. It's not about what they give you credit for, it's about knowing you did the right things and are doing the right things. Their opinions do not matter, not one bit. I know that they do matter to you but it causes pain if we hang onto these kinds of situations wanting validation from other people. Sometimes, they derrive pleasure from not giving it to us, so we have to create our own validation and closure.
Your kids are adults and they will come around. They are hopefully mature enough to know that it's never just ONE person's problem. You and your ex-wife both made mistakes.