Hello Softballjunkie8: Thank you for sharing this difficult situation. I recall having read & replied to your previous post. I've given what you wrote some thought. I'm going to go out on a limb here & suggest that there is something your husband isn't telling you. I could be completely wrong about this. But my sense is that there is something in the background he's keeping to himself. It could be an affair. It could be some kind of sexual orientation or gender identity issue, or something else entirely. I don't know. But I suspect that there's something hiding in the background that is driving this.

Assuming this is the case, your husband may or may not ever be willing to share what is going on. If he does, of course, that would make things at least a bit easier. But if he chooses not to then, from my perspective, you will have to decide what you can & can't handle & establish some firm boundaries. I have had to do this in my marriage for reasons I won't go into here. Anyway, I wish you all the best with this most difficult situation. Please continue posting!