thanks everyone for the feedback. i think that spontaneous expressions of affection or caring are something i would like to learn to be more accepting of. i just wasnt sure if that was what this was or what! by the sounds of things you all think it was ok and not meant in a weird way which is very comforting.
i think what i ll do is say nothing the next time and she may never do it again. ostrich style. lol. if she does... well i dont want my mentioning it to insult her or make an issue of it if she genuinely means it in a safe way... i think maybe i ll just play it by ear.
everyone's thoughts are very much appreciated cos i really didnt know what to think, so thanks again!
biiv