Peorson123, I am sorry to hear about your tough situation. I have no experience with bulimia/anorexia but can relate to lying, hiding and defensive anger....Here is something you can try to have the much needed adult conversation. First, try to imagine that she has worked really hard at getting better and starting a family with you. Try to imagine that she feels terrible about her lapse, guilty about reverting into old patterns and ashamed of letting you down. Second, accept your reaction of shock, anger and worry about all this. If you can do both of those things, sit down with her and find out how she feels. Let her talk. Show her empathy for her feelings. That doesn't mean condone her actions. Just let her know you care and you understand that she must feel awful about how this is turning out. Maybe then you can tell her how worried you are for her and the baby and convince her it would be best to seek help. A clinic or hospital might be a better place given that there is physical danger to mother and child...i know you are under emotional and time pressure but in the end you can not control what she does with her body unless local laws permit you to have her committed on the grounds of carrying your child. Hoping everything turns out alright for you and your baby!