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Old Dec 14, 2015, 07:48 PM
yagr yagr is offline
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First, I would like to say that I'm sorry that you are suffering over this situation. Second, as a spiritual seeker, can you see the marvelous buffet that this person laid out at your feet? Let's take a look:

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Originally Posted by PlatinumHeart View Post
Does anyone have any suggestions how I can remove these thoughts from my head and continue with this wonderful faith, that promotes nothing but unity, spirituality, and love?
Remove thoughts from your head? Well, perhaps. Where do thoughts come from and where do they go?

Sensations lead to thoughts;
Thoughts lead to feelings;
Feelings lead to behaviors;
Behaviors lead to beliefs.

You can't stop your thoughts, they come like the tide. You were having a moment trying to connect with this faith and here comes the tide. Do you remove the tide from the ocean?

I'll bet you've heard the saying, "You can't afford the luxury of a single negative thought, not one." This saying does not mean the thought doesn't come but the idea of 'negative' is a value judgement - a feeling. Do not nurture the thought long enough to allow the feeling to take root. Observe the thought, and like the tide, allow it to return to where it came from without grasping at it. What we water and fertilize grows, what we neglect, dies. For example:

In the midst of a rather loud and animated argument recently, of which I wasn't a participant, I began to smile. It caught the participants attention and their attention shifted to me.
"You think this is funny?" one asked verbally while the other looked like the words had been taken right out of her mouth.
"No. Not at all," I said.
"Then what are you smiling about?" he pressed.
"I was just thinking how much I loved you both and a smile just sort of appeared. Excuse me," I said as I got up and left the room.
I don't know if they sorted it out or not but it got a lot quieter.

The arguments start and so do my thoughts. Like so:
"Gosh darn it Frank, don't do this..."
Hmm, don't like that one...
"For crying out loud Beth, don't feed into it..."
Nope, don't like that one either...
"I wish they wouldn't fight..."
Yuck, nope again...
"Cause I love them so much..."
THERE'S MY HUCKLEBERRY! Focus on that, yagr.


And then I do...when I'm successful. I'm not always successful but I always try. Which I suppose is why it's called a 'practice'.
Thanks for this!
Gus1234U