Are you kidding? I sure wouldn't want to meet her, based on how you describe her.

If your boyfriend's diagnosis is from a therapist and not from an actual psychiatrist, then don't take it too seriously. These diagnoses are being handed out way to freely. An eminent psychiatrist told me that he needs 5 years of knowing a patient to feel confident he understands what diagnosis is applicable. Prior to that, he says he is making an educated guess. Non-doctors are making uneducated guesses.

You are quite invested in labeling people. Try to thing about them without the labels. If your family of origin are not nice people to be around, you might be best off to avoid them.