My father always does this thing where he will appear unbelievably kind - usually through monetary means though, like buying expensive jewellery or something electronic that I don't need. He does this, and often I question, "Am I right? Did he really abuse us? Is it me that's the fault, and he is actually this really wonderful father, and I am actually very lucky and undeserving to have him?".

But abusers do this - they do their utmost to appear as the most kindest person you could ever meet, with such unbelievable acts of niceness, so that we think these thoughts and continue to stay around them. It's just a tool to make it harder for us to escape