Thanks, MKAC & FKA: Hankster
. Perhaps I need more people to yell at me to just say no. T doesn't yell it at me but you can tell she'd like to bop my mom over the head and tell her to leave me alone, and I'm sure she wishes she could bop me over the head into "just say no" when it comes to her. I'm a mid-thirties woman, with a job, spouse, own my home, cars, 2 furbabies, etc. and I can't say no to my mom and allow her to make me feel like I'm a 10 year old child, terrified every time the phone rings or she texts. It's frustrating and so damn confusing
One day I will learn I suppose. Just have to figure out how to get through this weekend alive. Thanks, guys - it feels nice to be heard and understood.
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
Ellahmae, it wasn't until after my dad died that I could draw the line and stay away from my mother. It took YEARS of effort in trying to draw safe boundaries and failing, and hankster periodically 'yelling' at me that I just needed to get the **** away from her. If she could stay away from her mother and live through it, so could I. So now I see my mother extremely rarely and generally only when forced to in order to pick up my niece or something. It sucks and people give you fifty million kinds of grief, but it can be done. It is a HUGE relief once you have done it, though.
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