I haven't asked current T for one. She knows I will ask because she knew how important it was for me to get one from ex-T. I don't need one from her yet. I'm able to hold our connection for a week with no worries. I do, however, have photos of her from online and emails.

From ex-T, I got her favorite book. It's a tiny book filled with quotes from her favorite author. I had to fight to get that book. Part of me thinks she gave it to me just to make me shut up and go away. I also have pictures from online and emails from her.

My ex-T from 10 years ago gave me a beanie bear (I keep it above my head) and an angel ornament (I keep on the dashboard of my car. I also have a picture in a picture frame from her.

One of my college counselors also gave me little crystal rocks. She called them warm fuzzies because when you hold them in your hands they warm up...just like her presence would if she were there. I have no picture of her

I have a lot of transitional objects from a lot of different people. It helps me to hold on to the memory of them.