Sounds like you are accepting the limitations to what you can do according to his rules just to keep the peace. Diminishing aspects of yourself to suit his requirements. It's all about his feelings and you're being conditioned, programmed and controlled. If you step out of line again he will bring out his remote control and start using fast forward, rewind, freeze frame, pause, or all of them at the same time, where he can go back in time and mention any of your past behaviours but not his, where he can fast forward and threaten to leave, where he can click freeze this frame and leave you in a state of suspended animation for as long as he pleases.