I am very sorry this happened to you. If my T did this I would feel shattered and really upset. It is not right that she changed this boundary and did not even give you the chance to tell her how you feel. She should have at the very least mentioned she wanted to do this and hear your thoughts and feelings and found a middle ground that you both could be happy with. When a therapist does this they often leave the client more damaged and trigger abandonment fears if you did not have them already. I feel for you.