When I mentioned that I thought a transitional object would help me, my T (who was already thinking the same thing) started suggesting different things in her office she would be happy for me to hold onto. She felt it was important that I pick the object. She had first offered a pillow from her couch but I said I needed something more portable. She then showed me the gemstones that were sitting in the dish on the table next to my chair and I picked the biggest one that looks like a crystal. I am glad I got to pick what it is. I also had her hold it during a session so she could put her positive energy into it.