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Originally Posted by DBTDiva
I wasn't planning on commenting on this board but I just had to say that this is horrible and I'm so so sorry. That therapist had horrible boundaries. Some of that stuff could honestly get into ethical violations. Extended physical contact and telling you that she loved you, those things are not part of a therapeutic relationship. She treated you like a friend not a client. The harm it has caused you is evident. I hope that the new therapist is able to form a helping relationship with you that is appropriate and I'm glad you had the strength to find someone new.
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I don't think you can so easily say what is or isn't part of a therapeutic relationship. Somatic work including what would generally be termed snuggling is an integral part of my therapy ( severe childhood abuse /neglect, body dysmorphia from abuse, severe and chronic eating issues also from abuse). She tells me she loves me every time we talk. I've been with my therapist for 3 1/2 years and we have had issues but she is as honest and ethical as they come.
I dislike blanket statements about what is or isn't "therapy". Just because one therapist screws up doesn't mean every therapist who does something is bad. I agree that it takes a LOT more knowledge and care to manage a therapeutic relationship like ours but that doesn't make it inherently wrong