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Originally Posted by DBTDiva
I wasn't planning on commenting on this board but I just had to say that this is horrible and I'm so so sorry. That therapist had horrible boundaries. Some of that stuff could honestly get into ethical violations. Extended physical contact and telling you that she loved you, those things are not part of a therapeutic relationship. She treated you like a friend not a client. The harm it has caused you is evident. I hope that the new therapist is able to form a helping relationship with you that is appropriate and I'm glad you had the strength to find someone new.
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Thank you much for this. I'm constantly hard on myself for not moving past this.... and I shared this in the hopes that the original poster would surely know someone knows exactly how it feels to have boundaries shifted abruptly with no discussion. Seriously, it was traumatizing to me all over again! Therapy shouldn't cause further trauma...it should help recover from the trauma that was already there. Yes, she told me she loved me, in person, by text, by Email, but after changing her boundaries, said her saying that is reserved for her family and friends and wouldn't be "genuine." Ouch. I could go on and on... but what's even worse is when you're so attached to the person who hurt you that you can't leave them. The OP, I think, mentioned this too. So I was thankful to find out my insurance will pay for two T's, and it took me 9 months...but I'm going to, one way or another, try to move past this. Hopefully the new T will help (mine is psychodynamic-like, the new T is CBT, and via phone conversation, I have told new T about my therapy situation).