I'm so sorry. Unfortunately where our Is differ is that when my T screwed up regarding boundaries she said " wow. I really screwed up and really hurt you and I'm very very sorry". She didn't change the boundary back but she made it clear that nothing similar would happen again. If we came upon a similar situation we would address it slowly and make transitions in stages.
Your t just won't admit she made a mistake and I still wish I could smack her in the face and make her see how she is blaming YOU for HER mistake. I would be in the sane situation as you if my T hadn't been willing to say "I really screwed up and I'm sorry and this won't happen again"( for background my T was texting me every night for about six months . this was the first time in my life that some one who wasn't sleeping with me cared enough to say things like "good night and sweet dreams". She abruptly decided that she needed to put her phone down in the evening as she has a big family and felt over stretched. Turns out she didn't realize how important it was to me so she just laid the law down cold turkey. It caused a gigantic rupture that we were able to work through only because my T tool full responsibility for the whole thing)