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Originally Posted by newday7121
'I would never leave you'........As I describe the amount of trauma I allowed my ex spouse to put me through this statement came out my ex therapist's mouth....."I would never leave you" There was no categorizing just and out of blue statement.....There was no mention of role playing practice....Too me it was judgement I'm not sure for being an abused women, an abuse counselee, or just out right laughing....I didn't know what to do with that statement in the moment. I'm guessing it was a shift of focus to the next topic. I need not my system leave me so that I'm not subjected to any form of abuse in this way again. You know what I still have moments to where I can't catch it in the moment when someone is openly offending me....Sometimes It is the ones in the system that keeps these hurts and set up other situation to where hurtful things are said to the ex counselor....Just something I'm remember from years ago I like to analyze thing and wonder of what value I can take from even from that.
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I am a survivor of domestic violence and therapist abuse -and I still have problems sticking up for myself in the moment when I am offended. I just am not quick enough..or something.
I don't think I would find it comforting either for the therapist to say, "I would never leave you." That would send up a red flag for me even if I didn't comment on it right then. You were being vulnerable telling that T about the hurt you are/were going through.
The predatory T's seize upon the vulnerable. I often wondered why the Doc in my case chose me- I was not a colleague, a neighbor, his waitress...I was his mental health patient. Why me? Because I was vulnerable and available. Who would believe the word of a mental health patient vs. a psychiatrist? I digress. It's still a sensitive issue.
Yes, I think the system sets clients up to keep the hurt going. When we accept minor boundary slippage from one T, it is easier for the next T to exploit us further.
I can relate, also, to your wanting to find some wisdom or value from your past experiences. I feel that way too. I want something good to come out of what happened to me. Else, I have been sitting on a couch for twenty+ years...accomplishing nothing.
Am I reading correctly that he/she is now your ex-T? May I ask how you came to leave that T? Are you in therapy now?