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Originally Posted by BayBrony
I don't think you can so easily say what is or isn't part of a therapeutic relationship. Somatic work including what would generally be termed snuggling is an integral part of my therapy ( severe childhood abuse /neglect, body dysmorphia from abuse, severe and chronic eating issues also from abuse). She tells me she loves me every time we talk. I've been with my therapist for 3 1/2 years and we have had issues but she is as honest and ethical as they come.
I dislike blanket statements about what is or isn't "therapy". Just because one therapist screws up doesn't mean every therapist who does something is bad. I agree that it takes a LOT more knowledge and care to manage a therapeutic relationship like ours but that doesn't make it inherently wrong
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BayBrony, thank you for this post. My brain gets a bit rattled when I see post like this. Am always Curious as to what ethical violations extended physical contact and a therapist telling a client he/she loves them violates. Ethics are guidelines, not laws. Many therapist at least in the USA quake in their boots, because we are such a litigious society, and they got a few CE's in a scare the living daylights out of you seminar to stay 3-6 feet away from their clients. Granted this therapy is not for every client or therapist. And touch of therapy, and say I love you says nothing abound about strong or loose a therapist boundaries are, or how ethical they are.
What I read is a lot of therapist who don't know what they're doing, or get in over their heads, look for away out, and then pin the negative consequences on their client, because they can't deal with disappointing their client. That is just wrong. I'm glad your therapist took responsibility for the crazy making. I hope that the OP's therapist will also, and then get OP to a place of trust once again. I'm sorry musinglizzy's therapist is one that just doesn't get it. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that her consult works out.
OP, please forgive my rant.