I hope the OP chimes in and keeps us posted. I just don't understand how Ts can't see how this kind of behavior can be so damaging. My original post on this...if you do a search, is titled "touch in therapy...it's gone." Searching for boundaries gets a lot of threads popping up too, so many of us have been hurt. I know for me, and probably for the OP, and also for Bay, just taking the time to talk to us about it beforehand could really save a lot of pain. For me, I kept wondering what I did. What I said. She said she didn't want to create dependency. I said I wasn't dependent on it, and she said exactly....that's why I didn't need it. For months, I just couldn't understand how SHE couldn't understand how hurt I was. I felt like I was empty inside. I still feel that way. I pushed people away in my "real" life, because I was afraid of their rejection first. Anyway.... for the OP, I really hope you can heal from this and not go through what I have the last 9 months. I pretty much shut down. For months. I'd cancel sessions sometimes, where I never had before. But otherwise, I continued to go twice a week, every week, and make no progress. I would try to talk to her about it, and she'd get defensive. Anyway, I will continue to see my T twice a week, while I meet this new T and see what happens. Maybe the new T can help me work through this and continue on with my old T. Or maybe, she'll show me that it's time for a change. We will see. It's scary. But really, I think it may be easier the second time around. I have not told my T I'm seeing someone new. I don't know how she'd take it. I figure I will see this T initially, see if we click, and if so, then I'll tell T1. I wouldn't want to tell her if I meet T2 and decide not to go back for a second session.