I don't know why T would lie to me. If she doesn't want to tell something, she doesn't. I think maybe at some of my lowest points she gently steered the conversation in another direction to avoid mentioning something (or answering a direct question), but I don't think she has ever lied to me. She's actually more honest about disclosures than I might seek out. We had a conversation about disclosures when we started up again, and I mentioned that I dislike knowing too much about a T b/c I have had more than one T relationship that fell into a dual-relationhip role. She understood, and now modifies what she tells me.

I try take people at face value when saying negative things, but am suspiscious of them when they say positive things to/about me. I kinda suck at telling if someone is lying to me because of that...