I don't think that I can always tell when someone, therapist or any other person, is lying to me. I know there were a few times that I doubted what she had said to me, something about her demeanor seemed stilted or not very authentic. But I also know that I lie sometimes in personal relationships. It might be a little white lie so as not to hurt someone's feelings (ie. Yeah, I like your haircut. When I really don't like it, but don't want to hurt my friend's feelings) or denial lies (ie. No, I'm not mad or angry or frustrated, or enraged. When I don't want to accept or talk about my feelings because I feel as though they'll lead to an emotional overwhelm.)

I had to laugh after one of my recent sessions when I decided to leave early because I was just frustrated with my inability to "talk". I was stalled out and just sitting and trying to become unstuck wasn't working and creating a raging case of self-frustration. Right before I left, my therapist said, "I wanted you to know that I really enjoy the time I spend with you. I've been meaning to tell you that." I almost burst out laughing. She meant it to be soothing and welcoming (as well as to keep some connection between us) and instead, it came across as forced and stilted. Sometimes my therapist's timing is just off. Not her fault though because I can be just as clumsy and inept in social interactions that have suddenly turned horribly awkward.