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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA
What I find frustrating with this situation is that there was no interaction with you as though you are a capable adult in a voluntary relationship. Therapists absolutely need to set boundaries, but when a boundary needs to shift (from either party's perspective), and there's a desire to maintain the relationship, there should be an opening of negotiations.
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Right. Seems that some Ts, including my ex T, resort to imposing an infantilizing and scolding parent-child dynamic in the event of a rupture or problem.
One psychologist attributes this to the T herself having been "catapulted into an area of personal primary vulnerability" and they may "lack adequate psychic energy to emphasize with the patient". This empathic failure may lead to a "secondary level of wounding that further injures the patient and places the therapeutic relationship in jeopardy".