It's easy for her to say you should be strong on your own, but if it were that easy for you, you woukdnt be in therapy. I know how hard that attachment can be because I was just like that with my ex-T and I spent so many nights in fear and pain she would hurt me. Her response doesn't seem very compassionate or even therapeutic. My current one won't answer a lot of my reassurance questions, but she will at times when I really need it, and she doesn't get mad either.

I don't like that she gets annoyed with you but doesn't give you much to build up your own strength. I think strength comes from confidence and her responses are a little confusing and shaming.

I don't really beloeve in transference or any of the Freudian stuff, but I do thibj that in life in general and relationships in general, that desperate needing other people is a sign that you really need to built up your self-esteem and self-efficacy. And she should be working with you to do that.