Actually looking back, I did have a lot of bad experiences with men when I first started out meeting guys and hanging out/dating. I met losers and a few good dudes as well. To be honest, I think most dudes want as young as a chick that they can get (like for me, realistically, I am looking for maybe a 40-50 year old guy because guys my age probably want 20-somethings..) from what I see irl and what these dudes claim is true about evo psych and their 'male natures' and 'needs' and what not. I'm not trying to paint all dudes as dbags, but I think that on this level, most of them think this way and it is kinda dbaggy.

I question my biology all the time, "why the eff do I LONG for a being that likely views me as a lesser human being, likely reduces me and all my sisters to body parts and most likely values me for my physical attributes above all else?" I think I just want a few more flings and maybe one day have a dude that will be able to get me and connect with me. However, I do understand that we have to contend with their 'natures' just as much as they have to contend with ours. Let's be real, right now that plastic fake look is in like a mother, and it's bad news for Plain Janes and the make-up inept like myself because (of hollywood and media and internet in everyone's face 24/7) men want the perfect airbrushed look. Even older ladies like Sophia Vegara(sp?) can pull off that plastic skin perfect look, so it's not just young women, but she's super rich so, an anomaly. But the irl women that can make the look that's 'in' right now are the ones dudes are checking for. I think it's just the way men are right now in history.

We are now saturated in media more than any other time, of course they want the perfection they see on the magazines and TV shows. Look how even the most modest male acts over a bro-flick type movie with a 'hot' actress or actresses in it. Look how 'decent' men act when seeing images in Maxim...most of them beat off to it in private, for example. You see what I'm saying? Their desire for perfect is not exclusive to their vocal (and numerous) dbag sector. It's just what most of them want.