I didn't get married until I was 31(I was a bit of a commitmentphobe). I'm now 39 and I am definitely the exact opposite of a barbie but I get hit on all the time. I seriously would not have to work if I had $1 for every time I heard "I don't normally like big girls but there's just something about you." That special something is confidence. I know what I bring to the table and you better be worth it if I'm going to give you my time. I honestly believe if you are confident in yourself it draws others to you.

Also I think you seriously underestimate men. Maybe i'm lucky but the vast majority of men I meet are interested in the person not the body. I'm not saying they don't think a smoking body and face aren't a plus but they value substance over style. If all you are meeting are guys that care about looks then maybe try looking in different places than you have been AND looking at guys you normally wouldn't.