Thanks for this reply, Raindropvampire. Thing is, I don't have any 'type' of dude in mind. I would be happy with any dude, even a spotted one from Mars as long as he is kind, intelligent, considerate, motivated, gentle and funny. But dudes always have this 'perfect' image they want from us, and if we aren't the cookie cutter facsimile of their fantasy/expectation, then we might as well be kitten chow. I do watch what goes on when I go places with single girlfriends or even alone, I just people watch and I note who the men are breaking their necks and spines to gawk at. It's a trip. You make me feel a little more at ease about this situation, like maybe, it will be ok, I just have to get my overactive fears and presumptions under control. I'm not actually meeting any men right now, totally not ready. I study things before I do them from trial and error of being foolish and impetuous. So, I believe that what I say is true because I watch what men do irl and I read their unfiltered thoughts online. I always watch what they do. Trust that I only want one of the rare ones...not the Ken doll type, but the humane type, that seems even rarer than the Ken unicorn.