Yes, your internal guard dog is barking for a reason. Her selectively pretending that you do not exist demonstrates that she is not committed to your relationship. It sounds to me like she is playing with the emotions of at least 2 men. Her ex, and you. Have you ever heard about the "same zip code" BS? "If you live in separate zip codes, its not cheating if you go with someone else".
This dude doesn't sound like an ex to me. He sounds like another boyfriend.
Despite all of her wonderful qualities, staying out until 4 am drinking with her "ex" who lives closeby and she lies to you about is not a set of behaviors I would tolerate for a red hot minute.
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She said she would, but then deleted all his texts
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When cheaters are in danger of getting caught, they destroy the evidence. Hello?
If she's been lying to you (and you have evidence of this, which you do), then what's to say she hasn't been lying to you all along?
Her unwillingness to engage in a discussion about your feelings, without it becoming an argument, demonstrates a huge red flag.
And so I ask: Why would you tolerate being treated this way?
Personally I'd tell her to go kick rocks down the road.