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Dec 18, 2015, 07:29 AM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,084
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Originally Posted by Findingjoy1795
Yes! Whenever people (therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, mostly) ask what my goal is, or what I see "better" as, I just stick with the generals. I'll focus on relationships, not be afraid of food, blah blah blah, etc. what's expected. But in reality I don't even know how to comprehend a life like that.
Thankfully I brought this all up with my therapist today, and she reminded me that it's not one big leap from "sick" to "recovered." I can do little things each day to gradually improve. And that's way less scary to me than thinking long-term. Even if it is still terrifying. Honestly, my therapist was really supportive about it, even when I told her I sometimes felt close to giving up on "recovery" all together.
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I used to get frustrated when my therapist asked what I wanted. I couldn't articulate it. I'd answer in generalities like you do. Then one day I took pen to paper and made a list (I'm big on making lists). Doing that I was able to be more specific.
As someone said, healing is a process. You don't go from not well to healed in one leap, it comes in a thousand baby steps. Something that also helped me was to celebrate those baby steps. The "celebration" doesn't have to be a big deal. It can be as simple as acknowledging your own growth. Some times I'd buy myself a candy bar, just something to recognize that you made progress.
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