I'm trying to be supportive to my husband who has been diagnosed with depression (years ago) but has all the symptoms of bipolar. He was able to get an appointment for a new doctor on Monday (instead of mid-January!) so now I'm biding my time until he can get his meds adjusted.

Here's my dilemma: When I see him acting inappropriately (not dangerous or illegal), do I say something to him or just wait and get the doctor's advice? Examples:
1. We were out with another couple last night and I don't think he let either of them finish a sentence; he would interrupt or change the subject each time they started to speak.
2. My husband bought multiple gifts for a former coworker's children that were expensive and not age-appropriate for a toddler and a baby (small pieces, delicate, etc.). We're both looking for work right now and have no money coming in. I told him I was upset and that he should have asked me before he bought the presents and he said he knew I would say no so he just did it.

To sum it up, he's spending money on things we can't afford. He's getting just a few hours of sleep a night. He started smoking about 7 months ago at age 49. He gets outraged by a news story and then spend hours researching and obsessing over it, bringing it up at holiday parties, etc.

I may sound like I'm venting, but I'm really just scared. He can't prioritize what is important in his day. He will spend hours alphabetizing DVDs or editing vacation pictures, make one job-search phone call and then feel like he got a lot done with his day. I suppose I should be thankful he's not going on job interviews in this condition.

So, back to my original question: Should I just wait for the doctor's advice and/or new medicine? When I have brought up these issues, he gets really angry and says things like, "That's just how I am." "Nothing's wrong with me, it's you." "You're always criticizing me, can't you just let me enjoy myself?" He thinks his behavior is perfectly appropriate.

I am hanging all my hope on this doctor appointment on Monday.

If there's a better place to put my post, please let me know. I'm not really sure where to post things.