Therapy was hit and miss for me for a very long time. I finally found one that can "take the heat" as it were but it took me years of searching, most therapists are damn incompetent when it comes to personality disorders.

DBT is a very useful therapy to do if you want to target specific behaviors that are causing you problems.

What kind of validation are you looking for in these other women?

I'm glad you have your wife. I have never had a romantic relationship that was at all stable or healthy.