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Originally Posted by Webgoji
I don't believe so. I don't believe that how someone identifies has anything to do with chromosomes, genitalia, attraction or their personality, but with how they personally see themselves. I think this probably is hard-wired into their brain to be honest.
For example, I'm pretty easy. I have all the chromosomes, physical parts, am heterosexual, have a masculine personality. But that doesn't make me male. I identify as male which I believe makes me a male.
Now take a friend of mine. He had male chromosomes, physical parts, was fiercely heterosexual, but had a very feminine personality. He identified as male, but because of his very feminine personality, dress, etc, it confused many people. It wasn't even that he was a lesbian trapped in a man's body, he just really liked women and all their aspects.
A great popular culture example though is Liz Taylor on American Horror Story. She has male chromosomes, male body parts, is heterosexual (I'll explain) and has a feminine personality. However! She identifies as female. In her heart of hearts, she isn't a man, but is a straight woman. Therefore her attraction to men isn't homosexual, it's actually heterosexual which can be confusing if you don't take into account how she feels about her own gender.
Gender is really a very individual and internal issue.
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Thanks, Webgoji
I forgot to mention cross-dressers. Many men enjoy the female social role on a part-time basis. So was your friend a cross-dresser or did he wear effeminate clothing full-time? How effeminate was his clothing?
My personality is in-between male and female. I don't particularly like the things that males normally like such as working on cars, rowdy behavior, etc. For example, last night I wasted time watching youtube videos of Fred Astaire tap dancing. If I thought I could get away with it, I would wear a silk scarf, a wide-brimmed hat, a cape, high-heeled shoes, etc. I would fit right in with the 1970s rock stars. Instead I wear blue jeans and a T-shirt most of the time. LOL Part of me doesn't care what I wear, but part of me fantasizes about dressing however I want to dress.
I suspect I never had as much testosterone as most males. I have small hands, a small head, small feet, and my healthy weight was only 135 lbs for 5 ft 8 in. Now I weigh a bit more, because I'm middle-aged and flabby. Growing-up, my little sister was always stronger than me. My older brother was built like Popeye and never could pass a mud puddle without taking a swim (in the mud). In his prime, he looked almost like a body builder - even though he never exercised, and he was even stronger than he looked.