Yes, has she been traumatized? Did she have a bad childhood? Did she go through a lot of stressful situations?
I honestly think that as someone without struggles it's easy for you to say "she just needs to do X, Y and Z *like me* and she'll be fine". It doesn't really work like that.
I also find much judgment in your statements and little compassion.
Here's one fault of yours that I will point out.
You married her expecting her to change. Don't get mad that she was showing you her true self from the get-go and didn't grow into what you wanted her to be. That simply isn't fair.
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Will work for bananas.
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